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Showing posts with label business and stress. Show all posts
Showing posts with label business and stress. Show all posts
Tuesday, July 13, 2010
Wednesday, October 07, 2009
Stress-Busting and Negative People
"I'd love people if it wasn't for people." - Anonymous quote
The other day, I had one of the most uncomfortable business meetings imaginable. I'd had a tough day (which isn't hard when you're an entrepreneur) and encountered someone whose energy didn't jive with mine.
I consider myself easy going and get along with most people but for some reason, the second I entered the room for a meeting, the energy was bad. I felt frustration, resentment, anger and actual heat rising from my cheeks.
Once the meeting was over, I started thinking about it. For one thing, the person made me feel like an idiot (technically only I can make myself feel this way - according to Dr. Phil), they talked down to me in a condescending way and didn't know my capabilities. I sat there and took it like a wimp.
When I got home, I was mad at myself for not standing up for myself. In truth, I couldn't believe how the meeting unfolded; no harsh words were said but you could've cut tension with a knife.
What do you do when you encounter negative people? This is one of our biggest stressors and accounts for many challenges in life and the workplace. There will always be someone who doesn't jive with us - that's life. We have to learn to deal with it.
Here are some things to help ease the stress:
1. Pay attention to your body signals: Are you feeling stressed, anxious, angry, removed, ignored, not validated?
2. Why do you think this is happening? Is this person degrading you, yelling, being condescening? Why do you think this is happening?
3. Are you feeling less than confident? For me,I was feeling like a 'fish out of water' and even though I came to this person for their expertise, I felt inadequate, insecure and sensitive.
4. Have a plan of how to deal with certain people. For example, if you don't get along with bossy or overbearing people, keep your distance, speak up for yourself or understand that this is how they deal with things in life. Don't take it personal
5. If you're a sensitive person and people's negative or stressful moods 'rub off on you', learn to not take things seriously, realize it's their issues unless you make it yours and have some way to blow off stress and steam if their feelings get to you.
For me, I had to go for a run after this experience - I was so unsettled that there was no way to calm down unless I burned off the extra adrenaline.
It's not easy dealing with people but if you're honest, friendly and you don't take things personally, things will be a whole lot easier. I wish you well.
Lisa
"I'd love people if it wasn't for people." - Anonymous quote
The other day, I had one of the most uncomfortable business meetings imaginable. I'd had a tough day (which isn't hard when you're an entrepreneur) and encountered someone whose energy didn't jive with mine.
I consider myself easy going and get along with most people but for some reason, the second I entered the room for a meeting, the energy was bad. I felt frustration, resentment, anger and actual heat rising from my cheeks.
Once the meeting was over, I started thinking about it. For one thing, the person made me feel like an idiot (technically only I can make myself feel this way - according to Dr. Phil), they talked down to me in a condescending way and didn't know my capabilities. I sat there and took it like a wimp.
When I got home, I was mad at myself for not standing up for myself. In truth, I couldn't believe how the meeting unfolded; no harsh words were said but you could've cut tension with a knife.
What do you do when you encounter negative people? This is one of our biggest stressors and accounts for many challenges in life and the workplace. There will always be someone who doesn't jive with us - that's life. We have to learn to deal with it.
Here are some things to help ease the stress:
1. Pay attention to your body signals: Are you feeling stressed, anxious, angry, removed, ignored, not validated?
2. Why do you think this is happening? Is this person degrading you, yelling, being condescening? Why do you think this is happening?
3. Are you feeling less than confident? For me,I was feeling like a 'fish out of water' and even though I came to this person for their expertise, I felt inadequate, insecure and sensitive.
4. Have a plan of how to deal with certain people. For example, if you don't get along with bossy or overbearing people, keep your distance, speak up for yourself or understand that this is how they deal with things in life. Don't take it personal
5. If you're a sensitive person and people's negative or stressful moods 'rub off on you', learn to not take things seriously, realize it's their issues unless you make it yours and have some way to blow off stress and steam if their feelings get to you.
For me, I had to go for a run after this experience - I was so unsettled that there was no way to calm down unless I burned off the extra adrenaline.
It's not easy dealing with people but if you're honest, friendly and you don't take things personally, things will be a whole lot easier. I wish you well.
Lisa
Sunday, March 08, 2009
"I'm not participating!"
Yesterday, I was working in my retail store when a gentleman said, "I'm not participating!"
It made me laugh because I was thinking about my two sons who would say that when they didn't want to do something. I would immediately find fault in their thinking.
Here was a man saying the same thing but there was no fault in his thinking. He was talking about the media, the scare tactics, and this 'so-called economic crisis.'
"What do you mean?" I quizzed him.
"I refuse to succumb to negativity and get sucked into all that the media is saying. They thrive on scare tactics and sell more when we're scared."
I pondered this and thought about all the people who lost their jobs - my friends, recently, my mother and yes, the slowdown in spending. Being a retailer, I saw the effects in October; people glued themselves to their chairs and watched the news to find out what to do next. No one knew. Everyone ran around in a panicked state. Our store sales dropped and our recently hired employee was terminated.
I should've been depressed and at my lowest point. After all, I had planned to transition from the store and this person was taking my place. I was moving on to do my writing, coaching and other things and had looked forward to this for years.
But a funny thing happened to me. Rather than 'give in' like I normally do, I limited the amount of news I watched, grabbed some funny movies and worked on raising my energy level. I didn't want to feel bad - I couldn't afford to be negative in my store. I kept feeling positive and then something really funny happened...I got offered to write for one company, got hired to do work for another company, I still work with hubby in the store and I'm so busy it's insane.
By not participating in this 'event,' I'm attacting a number of quiet followers who are going through transitions, moving forward and making positive changes in the world. This is pure proof that the positive outweights the negative.
So the next time you feel overwhelmed and scared, shut off the news, go exercise, rent a funny movie or engage in something uplifting!
Happy escaping,
Lisa Rickwood
Yesterday, I was working in my retail store when a gentleman said, "I'm not participating!"
It made me laugh because I was thinking about my two sons who would say that when they didn't want to do something. I would immediately find fault in their thinking.
Here was a man saying the same thing but there was no fault in his thinking. He was talking about the media, the scare tactics, and this 'so-called economic crisis.'
"What do you mean?" I quizzed him.
"I refuse to succumb to negativity and get sucked into all that the media is saying. They thrive on scare tactics and sell more when we're scared."
I pondered this and thought about all the people who lost their jobs - my friends, recently, my mother and yes, the slowdown in spending. Being a retailer, I saw the effects in October; people glued themselves to their chairs and watched the news to find out what to do next. No one knew. Everyone ran around in a panicked state. Our store sales dropped and our recently hired employee was terminated.
I should've been depressed and at my lowest point. After all, I had planned to transition from the store and this person was taking my place. I was moving on to do my writing, coaching and other things and had looked forward to this for years.
But a funny thing happened to me. Rather than 'give in' like I normally do, I limited the amount of news I watched, grabbed some funny movies and worked on raising my energy level. I didn't want to feel bad - I couldn't afford to be negative in my store. I kept feeling positive and then something really funny happened...I got offered to write for one company, got hired to do work for another company, I still work with hubby in the store and I'm so busy it's insane.
By not participating in this 'event,' I'm attacting a number of quiet followers who are going through transitions, moving forward and making positive changes in the world. This is pure proof that the positive outweights the negative.
So the next time you feel overwhelmed and scared, shut off the news, go exercise, rent a funny movie or engage in something uplifting!
Happy escaping,
Lisa Rickwood
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